There are several factors that could influence why you continually draw in similar kinds of men. One of the most fundamental reasons is the patterns and beliefs that you have established about relationships, often unconsciously, based on your past experiences and background.
For instance, if you grew up in a household where your parents had a dysfunctional relationship, you might subconsciously be drawn to similar dynamics in your own relationships. You might be attracted to men who exhibit traits or behaviors that are familiar to you, even if they are unhealthy.
Another factor could be your self-esteem and self-worth. The way you perceive yourself can significantly impact the type of men you attract. If you lack confidence or have low self-esteem, you might be more inclined to attract men who also lack confidence or exhibit controlling behaviors. On the other hand, if you exude confidence and self-respect, you are likely to attract men who respect and value you as an individual.
Lastly, your social environment plays a crucial role in the type of men you attract. If you often find yourself in environments where a certain type of man is prevalent, then it’s likely that those are the men you will attract simply because they are around you most often.
By understanding these patterns and making conscious efforts to change them, you can potentially start attracting different types of men.
You’re attracting people that need fixing
When you attract the same type of people into your life, you do so because they’re familiar. For whatever reason, there’s just something about the person you can relate to – even if it is toxic. And because of unmet needs from your childhood, you can unknowingly get caught up in a cycle of believing that if you just love them enough, you can change them. I hate to break this to you but guess what – you can’t. They have to change for themselves.
You need to believe you deserve better
If you do not love yourself, how on earth do you ever expect to attract love? One way you can generate love for yourself is through self-care. Examples of self-care include saying no to another weekend at the bars. It means saying no to empty hookups with selfish people. And self-care means saying hell no to anyone who wants to introduce you to the world of illicit drugs. Loving yourself is all about preserving what you have and setting healthy boundaries. This will increase your confidence and repel away the types of people you have attracted in the past. When you feel strong physically, emotionally, and spiritually, you’ll find a different kind of man knocking on your door.
Healthy partners are attracted to men who are confident and have good boundaries. Unhealthy partners are drawn like magnets to guys with low self-esteem and allow themselves to be used. Again, we attract what we think. If you believe that you deserve a man who is capable of loving you for who you are instead of what you pretend to be, you’ll attract someone amazing.
Be What You Want to Attract! Literally!
