Practically all women are afraid that the guy they’re dating is a player. That he is not serious. But having said that, I don’t want to pretend that the problem doesn’t exist and that it’s all just sunshine and roses.

Here are at least 5 signs to tell if he is a player:

1.He is nice privately, but not publicly as much.

Players are great at playing the sweet, affectionate man when you’re together, but in public, he’s more distant and less tender. Bad guys want to look single – or at least not too lovey-dovey – in a relationship. He may also be nervous about running into one of his other partners that he’s seeing. It doesn’t matter if it’s on the street or at an event.

If there’s a big difference between his private and public behavior, then this is a sign that he is not right for you. The only reason he’s doing that is because he has something to hide.

2.He watches his phone like a hawk

One of the most reliable ways to identify a player or cheater is by observing their behavior with their phone. If he never leaves his phone lying around and always has a security code that he enters in such a way that you can’t see it, then that’s a significant red flag. This behavior suggests he has something to hide.

Additionally, if he turns his phone away when he reads a message, you can assume there’s something suspicious going on. This action indicates that he doesn’t want you to see who is messaging him or what the message says. Some guys even go to extreme lengths to hide their activities. For instance, they might turn their phone off when they’re near you to avoid any unexpected calls or messages. In some cases, they might even bring a second phone with them that’s clean, meaning it doesn’t have any incriminating evidence on it.

By paying attention to these behaviors, you can better recognize if someone is being dishonest or unfaithful.

Bonus tip: If you often hear his phone vibrate late in the evening, it’s not a good sign. Friends usually don’t text around 11:30 pm to say goodnight.

3.He becomes more distant when other women are in the vicinity

I assume this is self-explanatory, but I’ll mention it just to be sure. If he’s more distant when other women are around, then do not ignore this sign.

If you’ve noticed that he becomes more distant when other women are around, it’s important to trust your instincts. This behavior is often a red flag and can indicate that he may not be as committed as you’d hope. It’s essential to remember that just because he’s not overtly flirting, it doesn’t mean he’s not subtly engaging with others. A player often knows how to manage appearances, making it difficult to see his true intentions. You deserve someone who makes it crystal clear that he’s madly in love with you, regardless of who else is present. If he’s genuinely interested in a committed relationship, his actions will consistently show his affection and respect for you.

On the bright side, recognizing these signs early can save you from future heartache and help you find someone who truly values and cherishes you. It’s empowering to understand that you deserve better than someone who divides his attention and flirts with others, even subtly. By setting high standards and being aware of these behaviors, you are taking a positive step towards ensuring a happier, more fulfilling relationship in the future. Surround yourself with people who uplift you and show unwavering dedication; there are plenty of individuals out there who will make you feel like the most important person in their life. Keep your heart open and remain optimistic—true love and genuine commitment are worth waiting for.

4.He shares almost nothing about his activities when he’s not spending time with you

It’s understandable to feel concerned when someone you care about is not forthcoming about how they spend their time away from you.

But, If he tells you very little about what he does when he’s not with you, it’s important to pay attention and consider the implications. When asked about his weekend, if he responds with vague answers like, “It was good, I had a nice time,” and never provides any details, it is natural to wonder why. While some men are naturally less talkative, a complete lack of information can be a red flag. It might indicate that he is not serious about the relationship and could be spending his time with other women.

However, rather than jumping to conclusions, approach the situation with a calm and open mind. Communication is key in any relationship. Express your feelings honestly and ask for more transparency. Let him know that sharing details helps build trust and connection. If he continues to be evasive or defensive, make a mental note of this behavior. It’s important to remember that you deserve someone who is open and willing to share their life with you. Trust your instincts and prioritize your emotional well-being.

5. He avoids bringing you to meet his family or friends

He doesn’t introduce you to his parents or friends? In the first few months of dating, that’s pretty normal. But if it’s been over six months, it becomes more serious. These are the main reasons why womanizers want to avoid this:

1. There’s another woman he has introduced to his parents.
   This is a big red flag. If he has another woman in his life who has already met his parents, it means he is likely juggling multiple relationships. He might be trying to keep you separate from his family to avoid any awkward questions or situations. This can be a clear indication that he is not serious about you and is keeping his options open.
2. He only uses you for sex, so why would he.
   If his primary interest in you is physical, he might not see the point in introducing you to his parents or friends. For him, the relationship might be purely about convenience and pleasure. Introducing you to his inner circle would imply a level of commitment and seriousness that he is not willing to offer. This can be hurtful, but it’s important to recognize the signs early on.
3. He doesn’t want to give you the wrong idea (to keep you from thinking that you’re more than just casual).
   By not introducing you to his parents or friends, he is setting clear boundaries. He wants to keep the relationship casual and avoid any misunderstandings about where you stand. This can be his way of managing your expectations and ensuring that you don’t start thinking the relationship is more serious than it actually is.

Oh, and please note:

There is also the type of man who’s so clever that he doesn’t mind meeting your parents and friends. Even if he has multiple relationships, he might be confident enough to navigate these situations without raising suspicion. This can make it even harder to identify his true intentions. Always trust your instincts and pay attention to his actions, not just his words.