In the grand scheme of things, discovering a partner who resonates with you often necessitates a blend of emotional bonding, mutual beliefs, and shared comprehension. “This may be a hard pill to swallow for those who are smitten, yet it’s the stark reality. I’d like to delve into the notion of ‘levels’. Phrases such as “only date those on your level” or “that person isn’t at my level” are frequently tossed around, but what do they truly imply? It’s crucial to maintain certain criteria, and I wholeheartedly endorse this principle. However, I believe that many individuals fail in two aspects: 1) Establishing their own level and 2) Implementing it.

Throughout my professional journey as a coach and a nurse, I’ve had the privilege to provide care and education, have discussions and interviews with individuals from diverse economic backgrounds. And I can vouch for the fact that unpleasant personalities aren’t confined to a specific income range. If one is ill-natured, no amount of wealth can alter that. It’s just a fact.

While it’s perfectly acceptable (and necessary according to my belief) to have standards for the individual you choose to engage in a relationship with, it’s equally vital (if not more so) to comprehend the importance of having prerequisites that nourish your soul and spirit rather than focusing on material possessions such as the type of car one owns.

Imagine the scenario where you find yourself in a relationship with someone who matches your life stage. Suppose you’re someone who’s financially independent, stable, and self-reliant. You have interests and pursuits that keep you satisfied and rooted. You constantly strive to enhance your physical and mental well-being. It would be crucial for your partner to share these qualities. The significance of these factors lies in their direct influence on your shared future, as failure to align on them can lead to significant stress.

Assume you are autonomous, resilient, self-assured, and unafraid of solitude. You ought to seek a partner who can uphold their own existence. A man who is self-reliant, confident, able to lead, and certainly not residing with his mother or sharing a living space with a roommate. An independent individual desires your company rather than requiring it. They will not be overly attached or consume much of your time.

If you consider yourself a rational individual, seek a partner who remains reasonably composed during stressful circumstances—someone who doesn’t let every trivial matter get to them. They should approach decisions in a logical, sensible manner. They should possess an optimistic yet realistic outlook and draw lessons from their past experiences.

If you’re someone who values thoughtfulness, look for a partner who considers not only your feelings but also those of others. Be observant of how they demonstrate this trait in their interactions with people around them.

So what happens when you do not date someone who is on the same page as you?

Not only do you experience escalating emotions and false optimism, but you also face a series of nonsensical disputes and misunderstandings. Essentially, you’re accepting a fraction of what the other person is prepared to offer. This puts you on a path towards discouragement and, ultimately, heartbreak.

Being with someone who shares your viewpoints and preferences ensures that your expectations from the relationship are mutually aligned. Your standards are effortlessly met, eliminating the tug-of-war that might occur when trying to form a bond with someone who doesn’t see eye to eye with you.

Remember, love should not be synonymous with pain or hardship. Though it isn’t always a leisurely stroll in the park, you shouldn’t constantly question whether your partner genuinely wants to be with you. Life is fleeting, and in matters of the heart, there’s no room for ‘eventually’. We simply don’t have that luxury of time.

If you find yourself deeply attached to someone who doesn’t share your mindset, the most beneficial action might be to set them free. They need time and space for personal growth, and perhaps, with time, they might align with your perspective. If that doesn’t happen, have faith that you’ll find someone who matches your wavelength and shares your sentiments.

In addition to growing feelings, false hope, and a wave of ridiculous arguments and misunderstandings, you are vastly settling for just part of what someone is willing to give you. In essence, you are setting yourself up for disappointment and ultimately, failure in love.

When you date someone with the same preferences as you, you ultimately have the same expectations out of the relationship. Your standards are automatically met, and there will be no push and pull when you are supposed to be either building with someone who is on the same page as you.

Understand that love is NOT pain or struggle. It isn’t a walk in the park, but you should never continuously wonder if your mate truly wants to be with you. Life is short and in love, there is no “eventually.” We just do not have that kind of time.

If you happen to be in love with someone who just isn’t on the same page as you,the best thing that you can do is to let them go. They’ve got some growing to do and maybe …just maybe …they will catch up to you at some point. If not, then trust that you will gladly find someone who is on the same page as you are and who wants what you want, so wish them the same fate.

Moral: Just because he or she may pick you up in a Benz doesn’t mean they’re committed to your growth …