The secret lies in becoming the person who mirrors the qualities we seek. A simple yet profound philosophy, “Become what you want to attract!” rings true as it worked for me and it can work for you too!

Easier said than done, I get it. so, what does this all have to do with attracting love?

Ladies, let’s get real here. We all have that mental checklist when it comes to the potential love of our life. Mine, for instance, includes a dashing gentleman who looks like he’s just walked out of a GQ Silver Fox Magazine – preferably with a beard. Oh, and he absolutely must have a gym membership, and look the part! seriously.

Now, I know what you’re thinking: I mean, come on, how often do you find a  distinguished handsome silver-foxed, smart, mature, kind, trustworthy, and in the gym (50 yrs-60 yrs), casually strolling down the street or even online? 

But here’s the secret sauce: to attract what you want, you need to be what you want. What I mean is if you want someone who works out regularly, then girl, put down that tub of ice cream and hit the gym! Want someone with an open heart? Start by opening yours. Craving trustworthiness? Prove that you’re someone worth trusting. In other words, before we start demanding prince charming, let’s make sure we’re princesses worth fighting dragons for.

So ladies, let’s ditch the idea of perfect and start focusing on being what we want to attract. So go ahead, make your list, but also take a moment to reflect on how you can align your own actions and attitudes with the qualities you seek.

HOW DO WE ATTRACT THE LOVE IN OUR LIVES THAT WE’RE LOOKING FOR?

BECOME WHAT YOU WANT TO ATTRACT! 

It worked for me! In order to attract and attain what we’re looking for it’s essential to be in the same playing field as what we desire. For example, If you’re looking for someone athletic, the first thing to assess is if you’re living an athletic or active lifestyle. Do you do the things that active healthier people do? Do you consistently care about and put energy toward your physical health? Are you involved with athletic past times? Take a moment to pause and honestly think about these questions.

IS YOUR LOVE SWITCH ON OR OFF?                                   

Is your love switch on or off? This question requires a deep examination of your emotions, actions, and overall behavior. It’s easy to claim that your heart is open to love, but is it truly reflected in your actions and behavior? The energy you exude must coincide with your words. An open heart is more than just a verbal affirmation; it’s an energetic state that manifests itself in all aspects of your life. It’s about living and presenting yourself in a manner that you find appealing.

Being open to love isn’t just about being ready for an intimate partnership. It’s also about aligning your energy with the kind of love you seek. Love isn’t something that just happens; it’s something you cultivate within yourself first. The energy you give off is what attracts love into your life. When you start living, speaking, and being the person you’re looking for, you’ll find that love naturally gravitates towards you.

You must remember, however, this is a practice. It takes time and dedication to align your energy with your desires. Your actions, words, and behavior must consistently reflect an open heart. The more you practice living in this manner, the more people, circumstances, and things will emerge to match the energy you’re emitting.

So ask yourself again, is your love switch on or off? If it’s off, know that it’s within your power to turn it on. Start aligning your energy with love today and watch as the universe responds in kind. Remember, the love you seek is also seeking you. Be patient, be consistent, be open, and most importantly, be you. After all, love starts within.